Science-Based, Research-Proven, & Client-Adored Tools & Techniques
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I combine all my training and experience in my sessions but some of my advanced special certifications include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Both can be applied from a secular or Christian perspective. Here's a little information on the philosophy and methodology of these two modalities. I won't expand further on lifestyle and wellness coaching here because it is exactly what it sounds like. It is not medical advice, but instead professional and informed self-care coaching to help you achieve your goals, whatever they may be.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) was pioneered by Dr. Albert Ellis who created the A-B-C Model to help people understand the meaning of their reactions to adversity. For example:
A is the adversity—the event or situation.
- Our feelings or response "trigger."
B is the belief or thought—our explanation about why the event/situation happened.
- This is the thought response we assign to the adversity or trigger. We must have attached a belief to an event to have a response, which leads us to the "C" in the A-B-C Model.
C is the consequent emotion and behavior.
- In other words, this is the reaction or consequence of the feelings and behaviors our belief causes.
Individuals use their beliefs to interpret what is happening to them. These beliefs might be accurate, optimistic, possible, and flexible, in which case, these types of beliefs or thinking skills can help to reduce the amount of stress a person experiences in life.
However, a lot of beliefs take the form of automatic negative thoughts which are often rigid, inflexible and pessimistic, and this can play a huge part in exacerbating an individual’s stress levels. Fortunately, it’s possible to change our beliefs and, as a result, reduce our stress levels.
CBT is (usually) a time-limited, solution-orientated and collaborative method, which involves cognitive and behavioral techniques such as Socratic questioning and activity scheduling. Many forms of therapy tend to be open-ended and can continue for years on end.
Whilst regular access to therapy and revisiting it can be beneficial, CBT is more progress and goal focussed; the sessions should be planned and scheduled with a specific goal in mind so that results can be monitored and seen by the end. This relies on clients taking responsibility for themselves and their recovery and taking an active role in the implementation of techniques.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a way of changing your thoughts and behaviors to help best achieve desired outcomes. The popularity of Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP has become widespread since it started in the 1970s. Its uses include treatment of phobias and anxiety disorders and improvement of workplace performance or personal happiness.
NLP uses perceptual, behavioral, and communication techniques to make it easier for people to change their thoughts and actions. NLP tries to detect and modify unconscious biases or limitations of an individual’s map of the world. We all have these!
People—yes all of us—can fall into the trap of believing that our opinions or feelings are the truth.
You may feel as though your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are facts or universal truth. However, your opinions, feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are simply your perception. In NLP this is what we call a "map of reality", which is not necessarily reality itself.
People get stuck in their perceptions. It's easy to do and almost impossible to notice as we've spent a lifetime creating our perception of the world based on our personal experiences. However, these perceptions, which are not always based 100% in reality, can cause relationships to fall apart, communication breakdown, and you may end up feeling completely isolated or feeling like your life is a mess.
If you want to live a strong, mature, and grounded life, then it's important to become grounded in the facts; grounded in the truth. Many of the NLP models, techniques and practices are designed to help separate perception from reality and establish what's true.
Sidenote: any counselor, therapist, etc. worth their salt has gone through this therapy themselves, myself included, and it is a total game-changer. Hard. Freakin'. Work? Yes. Worth it? 100%!